D and I made it safely back from Tampa. Then I slept for 11 hours. I wish I could say it was a wonderful vacation, but it was only okay.
I did get a lot of reading done. I read several Sherlock Holmes stories and the latest issue of Reader's Digest.
Well, I need to go have lunch and go to the chiropractor.
TTFN!
Tuesday, May 29, 2007
Wednesday, May 23, 2007
Greetings from Florida
D and I have made it safely to Florida for his conference. Tomorrow I should be able to get us into the type of room we actually reserved (they ran out of rooms with king sized beds before we got here).
Other than that, there isn't much to say.
TTFN!
Other than that, there isn't much to say.
TTFN!
Sunday, May 20, 2007
A Lazy Day
Today, D and I had a rather lazy day of mostly watching movies. We were happy with 3 of them, and disliked only one which we didn't fully watch. It's been nice to have time off to just fully relax, because I will be very busy for the next few weeks.
We did go out to lunch, but we ended up having really bad service. Which was very frustrating. And the restaurant was out of two of the items D wanted (a cinnamon roll and chocolate milk). It was the worst service we've ever had at that place.
I'm going to go enjoy my movie now.
TTFN!
We did go out to lunch, but we ended up having really bad service. Which was very frustrating. And the restaurant was out of two of the items D wanted (a cinnamon roll and chocolate milk). It was the worst service we've ever had at that place.
I'm going to go enjoy my movie now.
TTFN!
Friday, May 18, 2007
Spending the Day with the Laundry
So, today was spent washing, drying, folding, and putting away the laundry. I also spent some of the day watching courtroom shows, which I think goes well with laundry. It's been a slow day. I also watched yesterday's CSI tonight (I was doing something else last night). I'm now looking forward to next season to start.
I need to get back to reading Catch 22. But that probably won't happen for a little while. At least tomorrow. But I should be able to read all day tomorrow, I think.
I'm going to relax now.
TTFN!
I need to get back to reading Catch 22. But that probably won't happen for a little while. At least tomorrow. But I should be able to read all day tomorrow, I think.
I'm going to relax now.
TTFN!
Thursday, May 17, 2007
Back in Business
After taking a week and a half off, I'm back. And I have at least one amusing story to tell.
Yesterday, D and I went to go look at a house about 4o minutes away from ours. When we got to where it was supposed to be, the only thing we found was an empty lot with a mail box at the street (there was a little concrete walk too). D talked to the neighbor and found out it had been torn down about 6 months ago. On the plus side, we got to tell the guy who was wanting to sell it that it was no longer standing (he hadn't seen it in a long while). The owner is thinking of deeding the lot back to the city, because he can't do anything with it.
I've been spending a lot of time reading lately. D and I went to the library Monday and Tuesday this week. I checked out a book on Monday and returned it when we went back Tuesday. Then I checked out two more books. I really enjoyed the one I read Monday, but was disappointed with one of the two books I checked out Tuesday. The other book, which I am still reading, is Catch 22. On our way to see the house, I read the first chapter out loud to D. We discovered that I like it and he hates it, which is common apparently.
Other than that, I've kept myself busy with laundry and movies. If you are looking for a good romantic comedy, I would recommend The Holiday. It's funny, but mostly sweet. I want to get it someday.
I guess that's all for now.
TTFN!
Yesterday, D and I went to go look at a house about 4o minutes away from ours. When we got to where it was supposed to be, the only thing we found was an empty lot with a mail box at the street (there was a little concrete walk too). D talked to the neighbor and found out it had been torn down about 6 months ago. On the plus side, we got to tell the guy who was wanting to sell it that it was no longer standing (he hadn't seen it in a long while). The owner is thinking of deeding the lot back to the city, because he can't do anything with it.
I've been spending a lot of time reading lately. D and I went to the library Monday and Tuesday this week. I checked out a book on Monday and returned it when we went back Tuesday. Then I checked out two more books. I really enjoyed the one I read Monday, but was disappointed with one of the two books I checked out Tuesday. The other book, which I am still reading, is Catch 22. On our way to see the house, I read the first chapter out loud to D. We discovered that I like it and he hates it, which is common apparently.
Other than that, I've kept myself busy with laundry and movies. If you are looking for a good romantic comedy, I would recommend The Holiday. It's funny, but mostly sweet. I want to get it someday.
I guess that's all for now.
TTFN!
Sunday, May 06, 2007
On a Break
I'm taking a break from my blog for a little while. I don't know when I'll be back. I just need some time off.
TTFN!
TTFN!
Friday, May 04, 2007
Buying a Swimsuit
For the first time in my life, I have dreaded going and getting a swimsuit. This year is the first time I have to try to cover up my more than ample chest and minimize my waist line (which is larger than I'd like). Having said that, I got my swimsuit for our trip later this month to Florida yesterday. Then D made teased me for not wanting to spend $6 on sandals that were made to match my swimsuit (I got a nice pair at Wal-Mart for under $3). He pointed out that I had no problem spending money in another store on stuff that could be considered unnecessary, but wouldn't spend $6 (that we could easily afford) on shoes to match my swimsuit. I do, however, need to toss a pair of sandals that I've got that are old and worn.
We also got me a nice beach towel for our trip too (I should only be going down to the pool, but I need a towel for that). I figure I will get 2, maybe 3, days of quiet time around the pool before there may be vacationing people there with their kids. And I probably won't go down to the pool if that is the case. I can stay in the quiet of the hotel room and relax up there. I'll just open the curtains to let the sunshine in.
I'm going to go. I think I've run out of things to say for right now.
TTFN!
We also got me a nice beach towel for our trip too (I should only be going down to the pool, but I need a towel for that). I figure I will get 2, maybe 3, days of quiet time around the pool before there may be vacationing people there with their kids. And I probably won't go down to the pool if that is the case. I can stay in the quiet of the hotel room and relax up there. I'll just open the curtains to let the sunshine in.
I'm going to go. I think I've run out of things to say for right now.
TTFN!
Thursday, May 03, 2007
What is selfishness?
This post written by D.
It has suggested that I apologise to Beth for the comments that I made on her blog, especially for calling her selfish. Well, I will apologise for not having sufficiently gone back and edited the post. It looks like it was written by someone whose first language is not English. As for the comments, they are completely founded on a very solid foundation. All except one, apparently I have meet Beth, but I completely forgot about it since she didn't spend any time talking to us at any of the events that we were at. As to the comment of selfishness, it stands. The only reason that Beth wants Meredith to go to family events is because she wants Meredith to be there. It is not good for Meredith to be there and she has expressed this. So, if it's bad for Meredith to be there when Pat is there, then anyone who says that Meredith should go anyway must not be looking out for Meredith's interests. Beth is also not looking out for Pat's best interest because if Meredith were to go to any of these events she would completely ignore Pat, so that leaves Pat feeling bad. So, now who is left? Only Beth. It is only for here own interest that she wants Meredith to be there, since she is the only one in this equation that would benefit. Sure the rest of the family might also benefit a little from getting to see Meredith, but it's not like most of you actually talk to her for more than 10 seconds at these events anyway. Why should she (Meredith) do something that causes her great pain in order for all of you to feel like everything is fine since the whole family is there? If you all really wanted to spend time with us, or even just Meredith, then all you would have to have done is let us know that. We have been to OKC many times over the last year, and almost every time Meredith has blogged about before we went, but not once has anyone ever suggested that if we had some time then we could get together. NOT ONCE!
To get back to the subject of this post, the answer to the question is easy. Selfishness is putting your own WANTS over someone else's NEEDS. Meredith NEEDS to stay away from her mother for reasons that you all don't know about. I know that you know the reasons because of the comments that you have made. They are so off base that you're in another ball park. None of you knows what is really the underlying issue. The very, very few people who do know the real issues are all in agreement that not seeing or talking to Pat is absolutely the best solution to the problem. It's not a short term problem either. It won't pass with time, and there is nothing that Meredith and I can do to change it, that is why we are simply avoiding it altogether.
If any of you ever do actually want to spend some time with us, then you should simply ask for that time with just you, and not at a family event where you know that Pat will likely be at.
I know that I am not being very gentle with this post and that some of you will be upset with me. But, my first responsibility is to my wife, not you. The only reason I left a comment in the first place is because as soon Meredith read the first couple of lines of Beth's comments to her she slammed her laptop closed and became very angry. I had to calm her down first and read the whole comment to her a little at a time so that she wouldn't get too upset. I posted because I knew that she wouldn't be able without coming across far more strongly than I did. Another thing about that post, she read it before it was submitted. In fact, she is the one that clicked the submit button. It would not have ever been posted if she didn't want it to be.
Later,
D
It has suggested that I apologise to Beth for the comments that I made on her blog, especially for calling her selfish. Well, I will apologise for not having sufficiently gone back and edited the post. It looks like it was written by someone whose first language is not English. As for the comments, they are completely founded on a very solid foundation. All except one, apparently I have meet Beth, but I completely forgot about it since she didn't spend any time talking to us at any of the events that we were at. As to the comment of selfishness, it stands. The only reason that Beth wants Meredith to go to family events is because she wants Meredith to be there. It is not good for Meredith to be there and she has expressed this. So, if it's bad for Meredith to be there when Pat is there, then anyone who says that Meredith should go anyway must not be looking out for Meredith's interests. Beth is also not looking out for Pat's best interest because if Meredith were to go to any of these events she would completely ignore Pat, so that leaves Pat feeling bad. So, now who is left? Only Beth. It is only for here own interest that she wants Meredith to be there, since she is the only one in this equation that would benefit. Sure the rest of the family might also benefit a little from getting to see Meredith, but it's not like most of you actually talk to her for more than 10 seconds at these events anyway. Why should she (Meredith) do something that causes her great pain in order for all of you to feel like everything is fine since the whole family is there? If you all really wanted to spend time with us, or even just Meredith, then all you would have to have done is let us know that. We have been to OKC many times over the last year, and almost every time Meredith has blogged about before we went, but not once has anyone ever suggested that if we had some time then we could get together. NOT ONCE!
To get back to the subject of this post, the answer to the question is easy. Selfishness is putting your own WANTS over someone else's NEEDS. Meredith NEEDS to stay away from her mother for reasons that you all don't know about. I know that you know the reasons because of the comments that you have made. They are so off base that you're in another ball park. None of you knows what is really the underlying issue. The very, very few people who do know the real issues are all in agreement that not seeing or talking to Pat is absolutely the best solution to the problem. It's not a short term problem either. It won't pass with time, and there is nothing that Meredith and I can do to change it, that is why we are simply avoiding it altogether.
If any of you ever do actually want to spend some time with us, then you should simply ask for that time with just you, and not at a family event where you know that Pat will likely be at.
I know that I am not being very gentle with this post and that some of you will be upset with me. But, my first responsibility is to my wife, not you. The only reason I left a comment in the first place is because as soon Meredith read the first couple of lines of Beth's comments to her she slammed her laptop closed and became very angry. I had to calm her down first and read the whole comment to her a little at a time so that she wouldn't get too upset. I posted because I knew that she wouldn't be able without coming across far more strongly than I did. Another thing about that post, she read it before it was submitted. In fact, she is the one that clicked the submit button. It would not have ever been posted if she didn't want it to be.
Later,
D
Wednesday, May 02, 2007
Breaking the Silence
I have been very reluctant to say anything about why I am not talking to my mother. Mostly I have done this because I don't want everyone in the world to judge my mother solely based on what my experiences with her have been. And I'd rather my family judge me based on what they know of me, although that seems silly since most of them (at least my mother's siblings) seem to want to treat me like I'm a little child making silly decisions they don't like. For the record, I'm 26 and that treatment just makes me mad. I've been making adult decisions for at least 10 years now, and all the ones with long lasting results have turned out very well.
D left a short message about why I decided to stop talking to my mom on my aunt's blog. My family can access it if they want a few details, but I'm not going to give any more out here. My aunt's big complaint is that I'm denying my extended family the chance to see me because I refuse to even see my mother. She cares about me, I know, but she wanted to give out advice on a topic that she doesn't know the full story on and did so in a public way, which I think really got under D's skin and mine too. And what most of my family doesn't realize is that as much as they are hurt by this decision, it hurts me even more to not see them. But I'm willing to pay that price, because my sanity and my sense of peace is worth far more to me.
So, while my family may miss me, and wonder when they will see me again, I am missing most of them about as much. I'm not selfish enough to ask that they have a get together and not invite my mother, I think that would be terribly rude of me. And I'm just asking that they will understand that I've made my grown up decision to follow the Bible (Hebrews 12:14 says to follow peace and Romans 14:19 says to follow after the things which make for peace) and follow peace.
That is all I have to say. Thank you for reading.
TTFN!
D left a short message about why I decided to stop talking to my mom on my aunt's blog. My family can access it if they want a few details, but I'm not going to give any more out here. My aunt's big complaint is that I'm denying my extended family the chance to see me because I refuse to even see my mother. She cares about me, I know, but she wanted to give out advice on a topic that she doesn't know the full story on and did so in a public way, which I think really got under D's skin and mine too. And what most of my family doesn't realize is that as much as they are hurt by this decision, it hurts me even more to not see them. But I'm willing to pay that price, because my sanity and my sense of peace is worth far more to me.
So, while my family may miss me, and wonder when they will see me again, I am missing most of them about as much. I'm not selfish enough to ask that they have a get together and not invite my mother, I think that would be terribly rude of me. And I'm just asking that they will understand that I've made my grown up decision to follow the Bible (Hebrews 12:14 says to follow peace and Romans 14:19 says to follow after the things which make for peace) and follow peace.
That is all I have to say. Thank you for reading.
TTFN!
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